Another friend stops me, "wait a moment, the Bible commands you to forgive. You're sinning against him by not even seeking reconciliation."
Is it appropriate for me to say, "that's easy for you to say, you don't have to deal with the consequences of his sin"? Of course not, that would be evading the issue. Isn't it actually more the case that it's the fact that he isn't emotionally and personally committed to the situation (apart from being a friend) actually lends clarity to his words?
It is true that it's easy for him to say, but the fact that it's easy to say does not make it false.
As an aside, it's certainly true that we have to be careful and compassionate when we bring up difficult topics like personal sin. Job's friends sat with him for 7 days before giving him counsel in a remarkable show of compassion (Job 2:13).
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